Are You Ordinary?

Be honest, was your first thought ‘no I’m not, bloody cheek!’ Was your second ‘oh crap what if I am ordinary’ followed by a feeling of ‘I need to do something extraordinary….now’. That would certainly be my normal thought process but this morning I questioned why. What’s wrong with having no special or distinctive features (dictionary definition of ordinary in case you were wondering), what’s wrong with being ordinary?

bestWe are constantly being told to strive for more, to be the very best that we can be and that’s all very well, there’s nothing wrong with ambition, but what if the heights we are being pushed towards just give us vertigo? In the name of ‘motivation’ we are told to ignore fear, exhaustion, problems and just reach for the stars. We are told that we cannot be successful without confidence, strength, determination and a relentlessly positive attitude. We are constantly having great men and women held up before us as bastions of achievement: the rich, the famous, the beautiful, the athletic, the intellectual, the spiritual. We are presented with so many images of people that we should aspire to that it’s easy to lose our own face when we look in the mirror…..

hayleyMany of these people that we so admire, and often feel so inferior to, have their place in the halls of fame for no other reason than genetics; they are born with a symmetrical face, a beautiful body, intelligence, athletic ability etc. Yet we often feel that we can’t live the life of our dreams if we don’t somehow attain these attributes; what do we think we can do? Go back and change our parents? Of course not, that’s impossible, so we do what we can: we have plastic surgery, we diet, we study, we work out, we push and push and push until we are satisfied……are we ever satisfied?

Invariably no because there will always be someone cleverer, more attractive, more successful, more talented…or is that just what we tell ourselves? We look at those people we aspire to, we want to swap our lives for theirs but what do we really know about them? All we ever really see is a media image, a reflection of their success. How many ‘stars’ have died young from drug overdoses, how many have broken marriages, how many have become a recluse in an attempt to escape their world? How many are accused of assault or are victims of the same? They struggle with their weight, their mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction and often lose those battles over and over again.

Their lives are ‘ordinary’ inasmuch as they suffer from exactly the same challenges that everyone else faces; they are merely extraordinary because they face them under the glare of the spotlight. Yes they have success, fame and money but none of those things will detract from the pain of grief or betrayal; they will suffer no more and no less than someone who has nothing.

To say that we are ‘ordinary’ is to say that we have nothing special that defines us but each of us is unique; there is no-one else absolutely identical to us on the face of this planet. We are one in 7.5 billion. Isn’t that extraordinary? If you found a flower that was a one-off, never seen before or since, wouldn’t you cherish it and protect it from harm? Wouldn’t you shower it with everything it could possibly need to keep it alive and thriving? Wouldn’t you hold it up for the world to see so that you could share its unique beauty, the traits that no other flower shared?

You, exactly as you are, at this very moment, are far from ordinary. If you want to change something about yourself then do it but not because you want to be less ‘ordinary’, you will never be that….

Lisa x

  25 comments for “Are You Ordinary?

  1. October 1, 2018 at 9:59 am

    Great post Lisa.

    I’ve never really wanted to be someone else and ‘ordinary’ is fine provided I don’t have to be ‘normal’! 😉

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  2. October 1, 2018 at 11:10 am

    I think we can be almost certain that ordinary people have a better chance of being happy, especially if they let themselves enjoy the ordinary things in life. We have no worries about losing our beatuy or our atheletic prowess if it wasn’t there in the first place. A marriage where both partners are totally lacking in ambition can be more successful as there is not so much stress and more time for each other.

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  3. October 1, 2018 at 4:21 pm

    We are unique but not special. Is an ambition of a delayed grave worthy? There is an unconscious tendency to accord to social groupings. The alpha of the group becomes the famous person – we give them a halo effect and believe too much in them. So it doesn’t follow logic but a strange distended social group involving famous people as influencers. To know the unconscious nature of how we behave and how easily we are influenced enables us to better define ourselves and what success means. We can discard ambition as defined socially or societally and perhaps define our own lives more successfully. It is also our unconscious tendencies that are fully taken advantage of by an extreme capitalist system that defines us by what we buy. Now I could put this post in a blog post – but if you’ve read my blog you’ll reaslise it won’t quite fit 🙂

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    • October 1, 2018 at 5:42 pm

      Oh I don’t know Tim, these are really interesting ideas and interesting is always a good thing for a blog, not to say that what you write now isn’t interesting obviously 😊 xxxx


  4. October 1, 2018 at 6:01 pm

    I am ordinary because I’m just a human being, just like you. I am extraordinary because I can lay out audio on a concert stage, but I can do it backwards & in 5″ heels😁

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    • October 1, 2018 at 6:03 pm

      Yes, have to agree, that’s extraordinary 😉 xxx

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      • October 1, 2018 at 6:10 pm

        The boss used to laugh & tell me I made our company look good, and I made him look bad with his “just rolled out of bed” hair. Then I had to explain to him how much some men spent on product to get that kind of hair😆

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      • October 1, 2018 at 7:56 pm

        Ah yes men’s hair, a subject of great debate (not that they ever admit it) 😉 xx

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      • October 1, 2018 at 9:15 pm

        Hey, leave our hair out of it!

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      • October 2, 2018 at 5:24 am

        😂 sorry Peter x

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  5. October 1, 2018 at 9:16 pm

    Yes, I’m ordinary. Mad, but ordinary!

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  6. October 3, 2018 at 12:16 am

    Such a wonderful post!✌️😃❤

    “In extraordinary times, the ordinary takes on a glow and wonder all of its own”
    ― Mike A. Lancaster, Human.4

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  7. October 3, 2018 at 12:21 pm

    I really liked this post and your intention to write it, but at one point where you mentioned that extraordinary people are so, because of their genetics, sounded problematic to me. It might de-motivate many people who are actually trying to do novel things for the society or anybody, and if no one in their families have been extraordinary before. Also, being extraordinary does not always have to be about great looks or a great body! It might just come from sheer hard work.
    This is my point of view, and so I mentioned it here, but otherwise it was a good read 😀

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    • October 3, 2018 at 2:53 pm

      I agree with you and I certainly wouldn’t want to demotivate anyone but I was speaking about models, actors, athletes etc. Of course they have to work hard to succeed but their genetics play a great part in that success.
      Thanks so much for taking the time to read and comment :O)

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  8. October 3, 2018 at 2:05 pm

    I am absolutely, unequivocally and in all ways abnormal. But whether I am less or more than normal is a matter of opinion. 😉

    But you are absolutely right, Lisa … each on of us is unique. Special. The sooner we realize that the more glorious the life ahead. 🙂

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  9. November 6, 2018 at 8:10 am

    This is an wonderful article. i really like it.

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