99% of people don’t care about you or even think about you, they don’t care what you wear, how you look, where you go, who you see…….nothing. They don’t give a flying cornflake if you’re having a bad day or your cat just died or you just lost your job. Why? Because people are inherently selfish; they think about themselves, their lives and their problems because that is what is within their experience and that is what affects them directly. You would have an impact on them if, for instance, you saved their life but , after the event, they’ll spend far more time thinking about their near miss than your timely intervention. That’s not to say that people are bad, they aren’t, for the most part, they just cannot understand you because they haven’t lived your life or had your experiences.
Of the 1% that we have left – family, friends, colleagues etc some of them will care slightly about your cat, your job and your bad day because they know you and what you will react to badly or well. They will understand what is expected of them and they will give you what you need because they like you and they want you to like them. It’s not to say that they cannot empathise with you, they can, but empathy, for the most part, comes from imagining what the other person is feeling and reacting as we would like someone to react to us in the same situation.
So what are we left with? Who are the 0.00000001%?
Those are the people who love you, who have been where you are now and understand. Wherever they are in the World, they will be with you, they will carry you in their hearts. Always. Hold these people close because they are precious…………..
Lisa
x
Absolutely – as you get older I think you realise that you don’t need a certain number of friends – just a few you can be certain of and those – those are priceless xx
LikeLiked by 2 people
Couldn’t agree more. You know that it was you who inspired me to write this right? 😉 xxx
LikeLiked by 1 person
You inspire me every day my lovely friend could not have got this far without you xxxx
LikeLiked by 1 person
Bless you hon 😘 and right back at you plus a great big virtual hug xxxxx
LikeLike
your post speaks so much truth…………
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you, it was inspired by a really good friend whose having a bad time of it. We’re 1000 miles apart but still there for each other 😊
LikeLiked by 1 person
good for you guys………making a friendship work despite the miles………as you know, many people can’t make friendships work when you will across town.
LikeLiked by 1 person
We’re 35 years In so we’ve had lots of practice 😉
LikeLiked by 1 person
what an enormous blessing!
LikeLiked by 1 person
It really is and I’m so grateful for it 😊
LikeLiked by 1 person
as I am sure she is too.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Ah bless you 😊 I hope so
LikeLiked by 2 people
Absolutely correct!❤
LikeLiked by 1 person
😊❤️
LikeLiked by 1 person
This is such a brilliant write up. Yet we lead such an ostensible life
LikeLike
I love the way your heart talks, Lisa! 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Ah bless you 😊 thanks Tom you’re a gent x
LikeLiked by 1 person